“All plans between men are tentative. If one man should suddenly have an opportunity to pursue a woman it’s like these two guys never met each other ever in life. This is the male code.”
I watched an episode of Seinfeld last night in which Seinfeld said the above. I tend to think he accurately captures single men pretty well with the quote, but the code needs some explanation because it makes us all sound like inconsiderate skirt chasers.
Contrary to what most men say, most of us want to be married. There is something within us that drives us to seek until we find. From what I understand, our track record isn’t the greatest regarding what we do after we find, but that’s a topic for another day. But since most single guys desire marriage, we are always painfully aware that time is passing us by, and therefore we are continually hoping to find a compatible women. When we think have, she becomes our focus. When we call “the guys” to let them know what’s going on, there’s no need to formally break plans because, as Seinfeld said, they were tentative anyway. The guys get that. “Go! Go!” they say.
As for the skirt chasers charge, there’s a segment of the male population that is always going to be about the conquest for the mere sake of it. But I really don’t think that’s the case for most single guys over 25. Of course, I’m not saying that a beautiful woman in a skirt doesn’t catch our attention. She does. But deep down, what most of us really want is to meet a woman who understands us and who doesn’t tear us down who hopefully finds some quality in us attractive enough to want to make a life together.
So, for most of us, the male code is all about wanting to get married. Really, it is.
